Bias Against Fat People on the Rise

I just read a news article that makes me sick. Not the article itself, but just that people can have attitudes like this towards others based on their weight. Not to mention the total unprofessionalism by several members of the medical community. And people consider themselves civilized? The article kind of lays it out in black and white how extreme fat prejudice is becoming.

According to this article here, more than half of 620 doctors surveyed view obese patients as “awkward,” “unattractive,” “ugly” and “non-compliant.” A third went further, painting the obese as weak-willed, sloppy and lazy.

The study even went one step further. As stated on the news article, "College students asked to rank pictures of hypothetical sexual partners that included an obese partner or partners with various disabilities -- including missing an arm or described as having history of sexually transmitted diseases -- ranked the obese person as the least desirable sexual partner compared to the others."

So although we would like to think that size acceptance is becoming more common, obviously it isn't. It's pretty sad that when you go to the doctor, you have to wonder if you aren't going to be considered disgusting or the object of a joke when you walk out the door.

I think in the coming weeks, I am going to start compiling a list of doctors that are known for being fat-friendly.

If you have a few moments, check out the article here. It's a real eye opener.

Drop Dead Diva

Death or life as a fat person? Which would you choose?

This is a question brought to mind by the upcoming new show, Drop Dead Diva. Deb is a shallow and selfish beautiful lady trying to be a model. Jane is an attorney with a heart of Gold. The only "downfall" is that she's plus-sized. They both die at the same time. Deb ends up being put into Jane's body. The show will follow Deb learning to live in a plus-sized body.

This show will premier on Lifetime on July 12, 2009.

Lifetime is always coming up with good movies and shows. I really like how they promote self-esteem and size acceptance. What really stumps me though is why would someone consider being plus-sized a nightmare but think a crappy personality is fine?

Yet that is the way many, many people are.

At the end of the day, someone's weight is not the issue. It's the personality and person inside. I really don't get why many people think the most important feature on their body is how much they weigh. A person's weight isn't going to carry on a conversation. A person's weight isn't going to be honest or thoughtful. A person's weight isn't something you can rely on. A person's weight isn't going to comfort you.

In a situation like that, I have to wonder how many people would truly choose to die over life as a fat person. Obviously in my mind, I don't see anything wrong with the extra pounds. Yet, I think that many would actually choose not to live if they had to be plus-sized or FAT. There are those out there that would think that if they were fat they would be treated like the most disgusting thing out there. They think this way because that's how THEY treat overweight people themselves. It's ridiculous that a person is made to feel less because they aren't the weight that someone else would choose for them.

So that's why I'm glad to see a show like this airing. We need more shows like this, and there truly needs to be more of the average American on tv. After all this is America.

List of Entrecard Blogs and Websites with the Drop Box at the Top

Entrecarders;

I wanted to start a list of blogs and websites with the drop card box up near the top. This will make it easier to drop your Entrecard, and also find some new blogs to read. Each link you click on will open in a new window.

If you have a blog or website with the Entrecard box at the top, leave it here in a comment. I will check out your blog, drop my card, and add it to this post. To keep it fair, I define "top" as being the very top area of your blog. This is where your content starts (like your blog posts, etc), excluding the header or header image.

If you have a blog with the Entrecard anyplace besides the top, you can still leave it in the comment section. Make sure to tell where your Entrecard box is located. In the future, I may make more posts with different Entrecard themes. This is a work in progress, and I will probably be updating it for some time to come.

So to recap, if you have a blog with Entrecard on it, leave it in the comment section. I will check it out and drop my card. If you have your Entrecard box on the top half, I will add it to this list.

Here's the list of Blogs with the Drop Box at the top;

1. Golden Prague

2. Diana's Daily Ramblings

3. Walking on the Dark Side

4. My Life as a Mother and Single Parent

5. Crotchety Old Man Yells At Cars

6. Man in the Moon

7. Custom Blog Designs

8. Loud Noises Big Plans

9. Amy Lilley Designs

10. 512 Apple Memo

11. Lake Trees

12. Lady Andie

13. Random Ramblings

14. Handy Tips and Hints

15. The World According to Jay

16. Mature Not Senile

17. Big Boys have Toys Too

18. Meltwater. Torrents. Meanderings. Delta.

19. A Pilgrim's Journey

20. Political Conservatives

21. Is a Mans World

22. Mr Soleh's Outburst

23. The Traveling Man

24. Tired Papa.com

25. Rants, Thoughts, and Other Things

26. Den of Iniquity

27. Room 237: Origins

28. E-Business Ideas

29. 99.9 KEZ

30. What's on My Mind Today

31. Golden Fibonacci News

32. The Abundant Alliance Blog

33. John Doro

34. Lovesomatic

35. Life After Work

36. The Dwacon Blog

37. EasyRacing

38. The Roller Blog

39. Tiddly Winks

40. The World of Silly Willy and Fluffy

41. PunJab Traditions

42. Something Random To Do

43. Chorva

44. LOL Celebs

45. BLEK.TK

46. Steven Designs

47. Timothy Adam Designs

48. Simply Digiscrap

49. Memories Made Easy

50. English Wilderness

51. Always Watching

52. Movie Mistakes

53. Army Soldier Info

54. Look it's Megryansmom

55. Max

56. Stay in Love

57. Imagination Madness

58. BargainsinBulk.com

59. Tomorrow is Here

60. After Midnight

61. Comedy Plus

62. Nigerian Curiosity

63. It Was So Much Easier When I Only Had One

64. Cute As A Buggy

My Birthday & Happy 4th of July

Well I am now 30! It was hard to pass that hump and leave my 20's. It makes me realize how fast time goes by. I always thought by the time I was 30 I'd be happily married and all that stuff. The paths that a person's life takes is amazing. Many times life doesn't go the way you plan though right?

Anyhow, now we are at another 4th of July. I'd like to wish everyone a good one.

Glitter Graphics - GlitterLive.com

Who Has More Dates? Big Girls or Guys?

A hot topic among the plus-sized community is which sex gets more dates, girls or guys? The guys seem to think that it's harder on them to get a date, while the women think it's harder for them. What's your opinion?

We live in an extremely fat-phobic society. So what does this mean for a plus-sized person's love life? Let's not say it makes it harder for us to get dates...... Let's say that it makes it harder to find someone worth dating. A person worth having doesn't let a pant size decide who they will or won't date. As a single bbw, I would like to meet someone that likes and falls in love with the person I am inside. Not the wrapping.

So take the poll and share your comments about who has an easier time dating.

Mazzy Star - Fade Unto You

Gosh guys, here's a little blast from the past.... But wasn't it an awesome song?

Fade Unto You released by Mazzy Star in or around 1994. Although the band never officially broke up, they went their separate ways in the year 2000.

True Blood - A Fat Friendly Show

If you read my other blog, Walking on the Dark Side, you know that I love True Blood. I just wish there was more of it.

With Season 1, I was tempted to say that it was a Fat Friendly show, but now I really believe it's true. It was so great to watch the 2 bbw extras and their moment of fame.

For those of you that may have missed the season 2 premier of True Blood, there is a scene in Merlotte's where two bbw are talking about Rene's death. One of them said that they heard that the vamp's dug him up and turned him into a vampire. Hopefully, that's not a hint of things to come.

I noticed in season 1, you will see that some of the extras are considered overweight. I say some. But in Hollywood that's pretty significant. I hate to say it, but most everyone in Hollywood is so fat phobic that it's not even funny. I think it's added a touch of real to True Blood. I'd love to see more real life people in the show.

For those of you interested in getting a little Southern vamp in your life, True Blood airs on HBO Sunday nights at 8 PM Central. If you'd like to read more about True Blood, visit my blog Walking on the Dark Side.

10 Ten Droppers and Thoughts on Entrecard

Entrecard has made a number of changes lately, and I am not sure what to make of it now.

I've used Entrecard for quite awhile and I really love the way it was set up. Since the changes though, I don't know if quite so many people are dropping. I still don't fully understand the paid ads. I do know that I no longer receive emails when I have requests to advertise. I really think I liked it best before the changes.

Anyhow, here are my top ten droppers in the last 30 days. Thanks for stopping by.

1. A Rose By Name
2. Good Spots In Paris
3. Ninoholic
4. My Meme Mania
5. Avon Romance Blog
6. technochest (This blog was deleted)
7. LovelyPurses
8. Love n its kinds
9. LinGzspot
10. Dazzlingly single

Dead and Gone Charlaine Harris

I just got finished reading Dead and Gone by Charlaine Harris. I really enjoyed the book and managed to read it in just a few short hours. I couldn't wait to get on here and blog about it before I start it all over again.

The Sookie Stackhouse series is one of my favorites. The books are just so "down home" (Yeah, I'm from the South), and I can really relate to the language and odds and ends in the book. I love the real touch that Charlaine Harris gives the books. I think these inserts about southern manners and ice tea bring the series to life in her readers.

As a bbw and a single woman I can relate to different parts of this specific book. In one part, Sookie and Eric are in Fangtasia. A heavier woman comes over and asks for Eric to autograph something. When telling the woman's thoughts, Sookie basically says that the lady didn't really think of Eric as attractive because she realizes that a man like him wouldn't ever look at a woman like her because of her weight. Sookie then proceeds to have a short thought of Eric going over and making the heavier woman feel like she is attractive, etc.

I have to wonder in real life, how many women wish that a handsome guy would do something like that.

There was just something different about this book. It seemed like Sookie had more of the real life struggles of a single woman. There seemed to be more emphasis on the whole love triangle of Sookie, Bill, and Eric. It was touching. It's like Bill and Eric offer both sides of the Perfect Male.

I really see Sookie as being the type of woman that just wants to be loved and accepted for who she is. She's very practical. She just wants someone that's she can rely on and spend the rest of her life with. Each man she has been involved with could almost be that man, but then he does that one thing that messes it up. And that one thing is a big thing that can't just be overlooked.

The Bill and Eric saga just continues on, and I'm not sure who will be right for Sookie. I don't think Quinn was the right person. Eric and Bill both have a lot of good qualities, but Eric seems to always be there for her. Until this book. In Dead and Gone, it seems like Bills comes through in her darkest hour.

So if you haven't read the book, here are some spoilers. Don't read this paragraph if you don't want to know..... Eric and Sookie hook back up. Tara is pregnant. Claudine is pregnant. Crystal dies. Halleigh thinks she might be pregnant. Sookie is basically tortured, and we aren't sure if Bill is going to live due to silver poisioning. Niall says a final goodbye to Sookie. Claudine goes to Summerland, which I think means she died. The FBI comes knocking on the door, and I'm sure in the next book there will be pressure to force Sookie into working for them. Overall, some questions are answered in this book, but a lot is left open.

I don't know when Charlaine is going to have another Sookie Stackhouse book. I hope that it's not going to be a year. It makes it hard to follow a series when the books aren't released that often. I really think she has a winning series here.

Full Figure Fridays - Grand Opening- Providence, RI

Heads up BBW and Admirers (or anyone with a Full Figure)!

Friday, June 12, 2009, is the grand opening of Full Figure Fridays in Providence, Rhode Island. What is Full Figure Fridays? It's a size acceptance club monthly get-together! We're not talking about Grandma's Bridge Club meeting. It's going to be a BBW party, complete with drink specials.

It's going to be held at;

Platforms Dance Club‎
165 Poe St, Providence, RI‎ - (401) 781-3121‎.

The party is going to run from 10 PM to 2 AM, and the cost is only $15!

To get all the info, you can visit the Full Figure Fridays Myspace page. Have fun!

BBWNorthwest's Club BBW Bash Renton, WA

BBW and Admirers! Get ready for a fun time Saturday, May 23, 2009 in
Washington! I received the following in my inbox, and
if you live in this area check it out!

It's going to be gorgeous weather this Saturday for the first FREE dance event in the 9 year history of BBWNorthwest, ClubBBW! Get info, directions and RSVP now at http://www.BBWDance.com

Here's your invitation...

++ BBWNorthwest presents *CLUB BBW at KATIE J's* ++
DATE: Saturday, May 23
TIME: 9 pm - 2 am
PLACE: Katie J's, 2621 NE Sunset Blvd., Renton
ADMISSION: No cover! 21 and over only.
DRINKS: Drafts $2.50 domestic, $3.50 micros, $3.50 wells, more specials to be announced
ENTERTAINMENT: Dangerous Dan spins a huge variety of dance music by request from Top 40 to Rock ... Old School to Hip Hop ... and lots of up-close slow jams.

THIS FRIENDLY neighborhood bar is easy to find on Renton's main street and has plenty of parking. No "theme" for this event so come casual or wear what you dare. We'll glam it up with lots of club lighting on the dance floor. Come early for the best seating!

NO COVER! CHEAP DRINKS! $2.50 drafts and $3.50 wells are just the beginning...watch for more specialty drinks to be announced.

BRING SOMEONE NEW! If you've ever wanted to check out the fun and friendly crowd at BBWNorthwest events, here's your chance to do it FREE as we waive cover for this first ClubBBW event at Katie J's.

HOW IS CLUB BBW DIFFERENT than our private hall BYOB bashes? They are open to the public, have a cash bar and more of a nightclub atmosphere. Doors open at 9 PM and we'll be partying until 2 AM! Because we were able to publicly advertise this event, we look forward to lots and lots of newbies joining the BBWNorthwest fun.

JOIN US FOR AN OUTRAGEOUS Saturday night of dancing and romancing. RSVP is not required, but we'd love to know how many plan to be there. Check it out at http://www.BBWDance.com :)

John Cena and BBW

I think it's really great when you hear of a celebrity or someone famous talking about BBW in a positive light. Not to mention being attracted to someone heavier.

I saw this interview with wrestler John Cena on the Howard Stern show. In it, he talks about an "intimate encounter" with a bbw. He says it was a great experience! John also says he was absolutely attracted to her. Stern tells him he's quite a man and I agree! Real men are able to look at the total package and date who they like, not base their attraction on how much a person weighs.